Friday, April 19, 2013

Where the H%*& is my Freakin' Muse?

I hear it all the time.  Writer’s block only exists in the mind.  Don’t speak this thing into existence.  Write.  Write again. Write until something happens.  I just want to know, does it count if all I write is my grocery list.  Maybe my next book will be about a woman who solves the case of the missing green peppers?  Or the woman who slips on the nasty floor at the grocery store and is saved by the handsome—albeit young—stock boy at the local Kroger?
I’ve tried.  Really.  All the little tips like write in a new place, get up early and just write (although that never worked because I’m so not a morning person), or exercise to get the blood moving. I even managed to put down a whopping 50 words on paper.  And after sitting there for countless hours staring at the screen—and wishing I had more Bingo chips so that I could play Bingo Blitz—I gave up and watched old episodes of Good Times.  So what’s a person to do when you have writer’s block?  Go to the grocery store?  Just kidding…. I ended up surfing the internet.  Didn’t you know that everything on the internet is true?  I wanted to engage my muse, so I figured I could find something to stir him up.  Yes, my muse is male—which sort of goes against the typical definition of muse, but I digress.  I call him The Boss. 
I was desperate.  I’m at the end of my book and The Boss is hiding—and probably laughing at me.  And then it happened.  I was driving in the car—listening to my book playlist—when I started hearing the voices.  My characters were talking to each other.  I turned the music up and then I started talking to them.  And the next thing you know, I’m mapping out my scenes.  I said all this to say… it’s unpredictable.  But you just have to roll with it.  And the best thing you can do is bring a voice recorder/notebook so you can flow with it when it comes.  Ah… the little devil finally came through.  And my WIP is better for it.

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

REPOST: Character Interview - Alexa Martinez

It was an honor for me to be chosen as Author of the Week in the Reading in Black Book club.  Check out my interview on their blog here.

The characters in Basement Level 5: Never Scared stick to me like glue, even now.  As I've mentioned before, my girl Alexa is one of my favorites. 

Alexa is one of my favorite characters because there are so many layers to her.  She’s a complicated woman.  On one hand, she’s definitely not someone you want to cross.  If she’s gunning for you, fear is an appropriate emotion.  On the other hand, she’s a person you definitely want on your side.  She loves her family unconditionally.  She’s loyal and a fierce protector of those she loves.  Alexa is a flawed character, but my hope is that readers will root for her as much as I do.
We caught up with her a while back in a rare interview.

Hello, Alexa!  Thanks for agreeing to do the interview!
Thanks for having me!  I don’t usually do interviews, but you asked so nicely…and I’m trying to be a little more open.
Give me two words to describe yourself.
Loyal. Stubborn.
If you could pick one person, who has had the greatest impact on your life?
I would have to say Daddy.  I’ve always been a Daddy’s girl, and his presence in my life has always been a constant.  It seems as though he’s always there…watching.  He definitely keeps me on my toes and he’s taught me EVERYTHING I know.  I always knew that I could count on him.  I remember when I was a teenager.  I ended up getting this ugly tattoo.  I cringe every time I think about it, even now.  Instead of punishing me for disobeying him (he always told me never to mark my body), he went and got a matching tattoo.  I knew it before, but it really cemented, for me, the fact that he would always have my back.
Let’s talk about Dro… When did you fall in love with him? What is it about him that attracts you to him?
Ummm… I think I fell in love with Dro shortly after I turned eight.  Lol.  Just kidding.  I’ve always loved him because he’s been a part of my life forever.  But I realized I was in love with him on my 17th birthday.  And let’s just keep it at that.  He’s a very attractive guy, but his spirit has always attracted me to him.  He doesn’t trust easily, but I love that he trusts me.  That attracts me to him even more.  And the fact that he is so smart and capable and strong…really turns me on.
What is your favorite part about being a mother?
I love every part of being a mother.  I never realized that motherhood would change me in such a profound way.  Being a mother and raising beautiful, intelligent children…it’s been more rewarding than anything in my life. It’s something to see someone grow from infant to tween to teenager.  I can see parts of myself and Dro in them and…it makes me proud…that I could be a part of such an exceptional life.  And my children make me want to be a better person.  There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for them. 
What do you hope your children remember about you?
I hope they remember that their mom protected them to the best of her ability—that I loved them unconditionally—that I encouraged them to follow their dreams.
Rapid Fire Questions:
Favorite Song? Never Scared by Bone Crusher. lol
Favorite Movie? Believe it or not… My Best Friend’s Wedding
Favorite Season? Winter
Favorite Food? I don’t have one.  But I HATE beans
Favorite Vacation Spot? Puerto Rico
Any parting words? Not really.  It was fun, though.

Friday, March 15, 2013

My Heart... it's broken.

As some of you know, I’ve struggled with my mother’s illness for a long time.  Well, on January 23rd, my Mother went home.  I’m not going to say she lost her battle because she actually won.  She made it.  She said “Good morning” to eternity in God’s arms.  We said “Oh GOD!  Not my mom!”

It’s been a little over a month and my heart still feels like a brick suspended in my chest.  I want to laugh, but I cry.  I want to move on, but I’m stuck. 
My mother was a phenomenal woman.  She was the best woman I know.  Her faith in the face of adversity was awesome and inspiring. 
But I’m left with the question.  Who is going to take care of me now?  I’m in my thirties.  I have children.  I have a hubby.  I take care of so many people, but I could always count on my Mother to take care of me.  Now what?
Trust me, I’ve heard all of it.  It’ll get better with time, it gets easier, you won’t hurt forever, your mother wouldn’t want you to be sad, you have to stay strong… But none of that helps me get through my day.  None of that keeps me warm at night when I lay in my bed and cry silently.  It doesn’t keep me from bursting into tears when I pick up the phone to call her and realize that she won’t answer.  Her phone is off.  I’ll never talk to her again AND actually hear her dispense words of wisdom.  It doesn’t help to know that tomorrow I may not think about her as much.  And my mother would definitely not want me to live my life in a sad state, but she’s not here to tell me that. 
And I have faith.  I know that God won’t put more on me than I can bear.  And most of all, I know HIS GRACE is sufficient.  I know that He doesn’t make mistakes.
But It sucks.  Plain and Simple. 
And I miss her.  I’ll always miss her.  My heart… there’s a void.  And it can only be filled by her.  I’ll continue to live my life and remember all the awesome things she taught me.  And I’ll continue to trust God (which was her favorite saying). 


I’ll always love my Momma.  She IS my favorite girl.  RIParadise Mom.  Love you!